Be impeccable with your word
For Don Miguel Ruiz, the word is the most powerful tool you have: it can create or destroy. The first agreement asks you to use your words with integrity, without gossiping or putting yourself down. Every word is a seed planted in your mind and in the minds of others.
This work starts with your inner dialogue. Ceasing to judge yourself is already a break from "domestication", the conditioning you received in childhood that makes you repeat limiting beliefs you never chose.
In practice: before you speak, ask yourself whether your words serve truth and love, or whether they spread what Ruiz calls "emotional poison".
Watch your words, toward others and toward yourself: they shape your reality.
Don't take anything personally
The second agreement is probably the most liberating: nothing other people do is aimed at you. Their words and actions are a projection of their own dream, their own wounds and beliefs.
When someone criticizes you, they are talking about themselves, not about you. The same goes for compliments. By no longer taking things personally, you become immune to other people's emotional poison.
This stance takes practice, but it transforms your relationships: fewer pointless conflicts, less need for approval, and a lasting inner freedom.
Other people's opinions say something about them, not about you: stop taking them personally.
No assumptions, always do your best
The last two agreements work together. Not making assumptions means daring to ask questions instead of imagining what the other person is thinking. Most conflicts are born from interpretations that were never checked: we invent a story, then we believe it.
Doing your best is the engine that drives the other three agreements. Your "best" changes from one moment to the next, depending on your health, your fatigue or your mood: what matters is to act without overdoing it and without feeling guilty for doing less. By simply doing your best, you disarm the inner judge and self-criticism.
Clear communication on one side, consistent action on the other: that is the duo that makes the agreements workable in everyday life.
Verify instead of assuming, and judge yourself on sincere effort rather than perfection.
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